We have Ashley Capuano in this article talking to us about how a drunk driver killed her husband and only son.
I am very grateful for Ashley for sharing this story to help other people heal from having loved ones killed by drunk drivers.
Thank you so much Ashley for being part of this event and sharing your tragic story. Can you tell us a little about your family? How long were you with your husband for, how old was your son, etc?
Adam, my husband and I were together for 13 years. Noah Nicholas, my son was 2.5 years old. He would have turned 3 in September.
Talk to us a bit about the night of the accident. What was happening that night? Where were you when the accident happened? Can you share the details of before and after?
I was getting ready to go to work on July 13th, 2013 but when I got out to my driveway I saw my car had a flat tire. I had my 2 door Dodge Dakota but it stalled a lot and so I didn’t feel like messing with it. I went inside the house and told Adam he’d have to take me to work in his car. Noah was upset. He was tired, cranky and he didn’t want to go. I yelled at him about it right before we left. In a hurry to get into work when we finally got there, all I said to Noah was not to give daddy any stress. When I got into work, was clocking in I felt bad for yelling at him and I told myself in the morning I’ll make it up to him. 20 minutes later 2 officers walked in asking for me. It was then that I learned of the accident. Adam was dead at the scene. Noah was air lifted to the hospital where it was said that if he survived, he would not walk and possibly talk ever again. I prayed hard, I begged God to save him but on July 15th, 2013 at 8:52 AM Noah stopped fighting and passed away.
My world collapsed. The life I had known was over.
What was your support like from the community, family, the law, and the driver’s family, etc?
I grew up in foster care, my only family I have left is my brother and he has there for me non stop. He pushed me to follow God more. He pushed me to keep living to honor my son.
What was the grieving process like for you? How long before you were able to resume life ‘as normal’ or as normal as could be?
I’ve attempted suicide more than once, each time failed and I can only think its Noah telling me to keep fighting for him. That’s my healing process. Living to honor Noah, a little boy who wanted to be a garbage man, who loved Battlestar Galactica, who loved animals, who loved life.
My heart breaks for Ashley and anyone else who has lost family to a drunk driver. I hope her story gives you some hope and inspiration to keep moving forward.